Friendship

Friends people that you can trust, share like minded activities and above all, people that will do you no harm. The kinds of friendship may perhaps be cleared up if we first come to know the object of love. For not everything seems to be loved but only the lovable, and this is good, pleasent , or useful; but it would seem to be that by which some good or pleasure is produced that is useful, so that it is the good and the pleasent taht are lovable as ends. Do men love, then, the good, or what is good for them? These sometimes clash. So to with regard to the pleasant. Now it is thought that each loves what is good for himself, and that the good is without qualification lovable, and what is good for each man is good for him; but each man loves not was is good for him but what seems good. This however will make no difference; we shall just have to say that this is 'that which seems lovable', Now there are three grounds on which people love: of the love of lifeless objects we do not use the word 'friendship', for it is not mutual love, nor is there a wishing of good to the other ( for it surelly would be ridiculous to wish wine well; if one wishes anything for it, it is that it may keep, so that one may have it for oneself); but to a friend we say we ought to wish what is good for his sake. But to those who thus wish good we ascibe only goodwill, if the wish is not reciprocated; goodwill when it is reciprocal being friendship. Or must we add 'when it is recognised'? For many people have goodwill to those whom they have not seen to judge to be good or useful; and one of these might return this feeling. These people seem to bear goodwill to each other; but how could one call them friends when they do not know their mutual feelings? To be friends, then , they must be mutually recognised as bearing goodwill and wishing well to each other for one of the aforesaid reasons.

Fear of loosing your partner

Sabotage your dating life and your romantic relationships because your thoughts and actions in a relationship are paralyzed by fear of loss. Where does this fear come from? Its like an all consuming disease, you know its there and you can do fuck all about it. What triggers this?

If you are one of those people who is really afraid that your partner will cheat on you, stop loving you, break up with you or otherwise slip away, you should be aware of one very important truth:

Your fear is both pointless and harmful and ironically will be the driving force to your partner leaving! See, there is no point in worrying about things that are NOT in your control. so it’s important to realize and accept that that risk is always there.

Fear of loss is very similar to jealousy in that it suffocates the other person. it may also make you act out of character in order to protect your own interests.

It is important, therefore, to liberate yourself of this fear if you want to enjoy a good relationship and be a good partner. Here are a few steps that you can and you should take in order to abandon this fear once and for all:

1. Realize and remember that your partner’s actions in the future are OUT of your hands. They don’t depend on you and therefore you should not feel responsible for them. Accept the fact that it’s possible that he / she will leave one day and that it’s just one, by far not the biggest risk in life.

2. Make sure that you do your part by doing what depends on you - being the best partner you can be!

3. Realize that even if you lose that very special person in your life, it’s NOT going to be the end of the world. You will survive and move forward. There is life AFTER your partner whether you are able to believe it or not.

So, stop being afraid to lose your partner, make the most out of the relationship you have right now and leave the rest to other powers that have nothing to do with you, such as your partners character, emotions and commitment to you. Live for your self not your partner, the better your life the more likely people will want to be a part of it!

If you FEAR you will lose! The only real person you can judge your partner on is yourself, is it YOU or them you dont trust!